My Have & Haven't lists

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Five things I have done :

Met, fallen in love with and married nickys

Been told with great sincerity that I am the best Daddy in the world.

Been told with great sincerity that I am the worst Daddy in the world.

Organised events that people have enjoyed.

Achieved a reasonable level of self knowledge.


And five things I haven't done and want to (with estimated chance) :

Stay married to nickys for the rest of our lives (4/5 - it doesn't do to be complacent!)

See my daughters grow up into happy, confident and fulfilled adults. (4/5, I'm hoping)

Become independently wealthy (0/5!)

Have time to complete all my projects (0/5)

I dunno - I'm pretty much where I want to be. More money & more time would be nice but the cost would probably be too high. I guess I'm aware of how lucky I am in terms of what I have, and there's nothing really important I don't have. Lots of toys & places to go, etc., but nothing that really matters to me as much as keeping my family going. Hmm. I actually found myself seriously thinking about pension provision of my own volition earlier today. More babysitters who'll cover for late nights would be good, as would more clubs that don't insist on having the bass turned all the way up and everything else turned right down. There were several songs at the Mission last Saturday that were nearly unrecognisable because the balance was so bad.
I like to go out and dance, but I like a reasonable mix of stuff I know & stuff I don't, and a mix of sounds. Monoculture sets where every song sounds just like the last one get dull very quickly. Oh, more DJs who realise that the point is to get people to dance, not to massage their egos. And more people in the club who realise that it doesn't matter what you look like - get up and dance even if you look like a fool. You'll have a lot more fun.

Gah. Rant over. I suppose what I really need is a house big enough to have a dancefloor so I can host my own. Anyway, I need to go and pack since we're leaving for our tour of the country before the traffic wardens wake up in the morning. Bye.

Comments

[pisica.livejournal.com]

Having one's life where one wants it is something that I think tends to be sorely underestimated in our culture. People tend to think about the things they haven't done, but there are *always* going to be plenty of those, if only because certain things cancel out other things (i.e. if you'd had the desire to be a rock star that wouldn't really blend with having a family).

I've finally gotten my life to a place where just about everything is exactly where I like it. Only took me three decades. :) Of course, it helps not to move from one continent to another, or one side of a continent to another, on average of once a year (although that was much fun in its own way). It's nice to be able to realize that, and not simply worry about the things I want to accomplish (publish a novel, finish the PhD, visit Iceland, read all of Dickens, etc.).